Dating advice how not to lose yourself in a relationship
1. Maintain Your Interests
Again, this is an easy routine to fall into. Over time, these little moments of self denial can create feelings of being disconnected from yourself and ultimately your partner.
Lunch once a week?
Maintain your friendships and encourage them to do the same. In order to sustain a balance between your life, yourself and your new love it is essential to reflect upon your mental orientation toward the love relationship.
We do not want to change who we are to be in a relationship, we want to be us and to have another person join us where we are, so keep being where you are, and doing what you like to do! Certain partners are much more likely to take you there, and specific characteristics can be more blinding. Relying on my family was one of the best ways I recovered from losing myself in that relationship.
People whose own needs dove-tail into yours can also seem too worthy of your automatic trust. Refrain from texting a million times, or emailing with your partner throughout the day; what are you going to talk about when you actually see each other?
Media tells us so, therefore it must be true.
How do you avoid the oh-so-common trap of losing yourself— your life, career, personality, and other relationships — in a romantic relationship? One of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves is to cultivate aloneness.
Make it a priority to spend personal time on what your value most, aside from your partner. To be in a healthy and happy relationship maintenance of independence and identity are so crucial. Be secure in your self-love, and you will never find yourself insecure with others. Our presence becomes a bonus to the other person and the energy exchange between two emotionally healthy individuals supports fulfillment, empowerment and inspiration.
Keep your friends close by. Less defined people become relationship focused, even obsessed. The most potent enemy is the unwillingness to talk openly about that process early on even when the relationship may take a hit.